31 August 2009

She Said, "This Is How Much I Love You,"

but she meant how much she loved to hurt me.
I have always hated the way
she can impose herself completely across our lives,
how these kinds of gestures clutter the apartment and
make it extraordinarily difficult to move,
for movement to even seem possible.
This objectification of both our selves is dangerous,
leads to actions which lack all but the most abstract context.
It compresses the definitions of our individuality and
summarizes our relationship as individuals all out of shape.
"Muh daddy gimme that knife," I told her.
"When I was a kid."
And we both followed the darkening pool
that spread across the table from where it pierced her hand.

3 comments:

  1. Think the title should have been;
    She said, "This Is How Much He Hated Me"

    According to American Institute On Domestic Violence:
    85-95% of all domestic violence victims are female.
    Over 500,00 women are stalked by an intimate partner each year.
    5.3 million women are abused each year.
    1,232 women are killed each year by an intimate partner.
    Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women.
    Women are more likely to be attacked by someone they know rather than by a stranger
    http://www.aidv-usa.com/statistics.htm

    Abuse involves a whole range of ways of controlling and hurting.Intimate relationships can be intense emotion and experiences. Sometimes its hard to tell the difference between legitimate anger and a pattern of abuse. Very treacherous, because emotional abuse can develope into actual physical violence. Victims of abuse very often becomes depressed and therefore unable to break the vicious circle of abuse.

    The abuser are often not punished, because the victims can have low self-esteem, a very legitimate fear of misunderstood and looked down on by their surroundings.

    It can be very difficult to prove domestic abuse: 1) time period can be an issue and 2) Victims of domestic abuse do not seeking out medical help, therefore has not one piece of hard evidence like hospital records to back up such an accusation.

    Link, Domestic Violence and Abuse
    Warning Signs and Symptoms of Abusive Relationships;
    http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

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  2. I appreciate the fact that you didn't delete the above comment, it is likely that people who need to read the comment will never read this poem. It makes you question truth in poetry. So what? Like I never wrote a poem about having an affair? or murdering my husband in his sleep? Fiction or not, It engages the reader, the poem is rich and makes you feel, like it or not!

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  3. 1) I guess it depends on who the reader thinks did the stabbing

    2) I would never delete a comment nor would I post one without identifying myself so as not to mislead a reader into thinking I was anyone other than the author

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